A Hercule Poirot Mystery Unfolds
As you know this blog is purely concerned about hair loss, so why am I going to talk about Agatha Christie, who to the best of my knowledge had a reasonable head of hair. I was watching the Hercule Poirot Christmas Mystery, starring the brilliantly cast David Suchet (whose brother incidentally is the newscaster John Suchet). The utterly immaculate and faultless Belgian detective with his usual charm and surgeon-like precision solved yet another unsolvable case, showing his absolutely superiority and expertise in reading and understanding the human psyche. Put simply David Suchet is brilliant at the part....brilliant and bald!
Probably like so many others watching this program, I am so utterly captivated by Mr Suchet''s performance and the way he projects his personality through the screen, that you simply don''t notice he is completely bald, a Norwood 7 on the Norwood Scale mentioned in http://www.retaining-hair-health.com/2010/01/norwood-scale-for-hair-loss.html
This is an important point, that is, if you have an expertise and you are in a position of influence or power, that is what people see first and foremost. They see a confident man and not a confident bald man. They see an influential person not a bald influential person.
Reading a number of other forums and blogs (most of which are very good), you read a lot about people becoming overwhelmed by the fact they have lost their hair, to the extent that it is causing them psychological pain, which in turn in bringing them down into a truly negative spiral of despair.
Does anyone see that in Mssrs Suchet or Poirot? Certainly not!
This is because the personality of the man is bigger than the hair loss - people see an expert and not a bald man.
The important lesson therefore is not to become your problem, to be much so more than your hair loss. Project the aspects of your personality or your ability that you feel most confident about, dress well and look good and you will soon start feeling a lot better about yourself and build your self esteem considerably.
This problem of people becoming their hairloss, is not unusual, doctors see it all of the time with people with serious medical conditions who allow it to dominate their life until they cannot think or talk about anything else. Hairloss is not a disease, it is just an aspect of your appearance just like your complexion or your build. Don''t let it become any more than that.
In management, when developing people, you are taught to build on a person''s strengths and not their weaknesses. By trying to help them with weaknesses, you can only get a marginal improvement, but by building their strengths the person can really develop to a much higher level. The same is true of hair loss, accept that it is not an asset, then go about building on the things you are good at, or the aspects of your appearance and personality which you are proud of and soon you will realise that hair loss is not that significant and people see a ''whole person'' and not simply a ''bald person''.
You might also find this link to be very useful which examines this point in greater detail mes amis, it is called Looking Good, Feeling Good.